"A fate dictated from outside, from theory or from circumstance, is a false fate". D H Lawrence

There are times in our life, sometimes childhood, sometimes as an adult, where circumstances or conditions seem to dictate our fate.

Now, by fate I don't necessarily mean a major tragedy in our lives, I mean that it seems that circumstances are going to dictate the limits of
what we can do.

Sometimes we get it from our families. "No one in  our family has ever done that, so you can't do it."

Sometimes we get it from our doctors, like the ones that told me I shouldn't ski. I've written about how I had to change doctors.

The toughest voice to overcome, though, is that voice in our own head. That voice that says, "What if I fail?" and then pictures you living in a box behind the supermarket.

The truth is - if you fail you'll just go on and do something else. Successful people fail all the time.

It's the picture of your dire fate as the result of failure that's false. That's what our quote is talking about.

It's a waste of energy to worry about failure. What we should really worry about is what we might lose by never trying.

Create your own fate.